Thinking of eloping?…….I did a lot of research on the subject of eloping (as I do with everything) before writing this section. Here are just a few of my thoughts on the information I found:
I must say I was fascinated, if not a bit put off, that almost all the websites I visited as well as the books I read about eloping seem to spend most of their energy trying to “convince” people why eloping is a good idea. They list reasons such as it’s cheaper; you don’t have to have unwanted family input or arguments over things like the music or the menu; you can avoid awkward or “sticky” family situations (like divorced parents); there’s no need for thank you notes (no, seriously, that was listed as one of the reasons); you don’t like being the center of attention; and so on.
The more I read the same things over and over, the more I thought….well, eloping COULD be those things….or not. It really depends on where and how you elope. For example, if you decide to run off to a resort in the Caribbean or Hawaii to elope, that could end up costing you a nice chunk of money. Probably not the $27,000 that The Knot says the average American wedding costs, but a chunk nonetheless. And if you’re paying for a couple of your friends or family to come along, well now you could be in the same price range as a “regular” wedding.
And all the reasons that revolve around not dealing with family drama or disagreements over what to have/do in your wedding just make me laugh. How do you think your mother is going to react if you elope? Talk about drama!
I could go on and on, but the truth is, sure, elopements are, as a rule, generally cheaper and less stressful. But do we really need to convince anyone to do it? I don’t think so.
I think couples who decide to elope, or decide to have a small, intimate wedding always knew that’s what they wanted to do. Maybe they thought about a larger wedding for a minute or two, probably because of a parent or grandparent, but their personalities and whatever other reasons they have for doing it are such that it’s just always been the right choice for them. If a couple is eloping for any other reason than that’s really what they want to do, I fear there will be regrets down the road.
Now, for those of you who really DO want to elope or have a small, intimate ceremony, I have good news!!! You now have more choices than a 2 minute, run-of-the-mill ceremony at the JP’s office or in the judge’s chambers.
In fact, you can pretty much have the best of both worlds…..a customized ceremony with music, walking down the aisle, photography, and even a champagne toast and a cake…..but virtually no planning, a truly reasonable cost, and if you’d like, up to 10 of your closest family and friends.
Or, if you want to have an old-fashioned elopement with just you and the officiant, you can still have a lovely and meaningful ceremony in a charming setting.
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